My life in sex: the 32 year-old man who only fancies older women

“S ome day, you’ll make an older woman very happy,” said one sixtysomething woman I was seeing. As much as she yearned for a relationship, she said it would be “wrong” to develop feelings for someone younger than her own kids. I’ve heard this unwritten rule again and again.

I am 32 and have always been exclusively attracted to mature women. Growing up, my lack of interest in women my age made my family and co-workers think I was gay. I was embarrassed by my feelings, so never acted upon them. However, as an eligible bachelor who spent his time in the company of older women, it was only a matter of time before someone acted upon their feelings with me.

The sex I’ve had since then has been wonderful, and made me realise who I truly am. I’d been through the motions with women my own age, but the sex felt mechanical. To me, young women all look the same; but older women are distinctive and uniquely beautiful – they have become the people they are meant to be.

Still, sex isn’t enough. I want an older partner to love and support. Sadly, most women I meet want only no-strings-attached sex, or are too embarrassed by what their families would think to start a relationship. Older men don’t realise what they’re missing. I just hope I don’t have to wait 30 years before I can find someone to love.

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